When we are knee deep in our cycle of binge-eating, dieting, disordered eating ect. its only natural to assume that the problem is food. Or eating.
Like if "I could just stop eating" or "if I could just find the perfect diet" I'd be good.
Maybe I need to remove sugar for the rest of my life. Yeah that's the answer. Or maybe I just need to count my macros. Or well, actually, maybe it's the Keto diet that will fix my problems with food.
BUT..., the thing is... there is not a right way of eating that will solve this. And there is no perfect diet either.
Because food and eating are not where you problem really lies.
If that were true than why do we need food to survive?
And what's the deal with the "normal eaters" in your life who eat seem to eat an amount of food that makes sense for their body size and activity level and eat whatever foods sound appealing to them at any given time?
How about that friend of yours who can enjoy a single cookie and then put a metaphorical period at the end of that experience?
They don't end up feeling the guilt and shame that results in eating the entire box really fast while no one is looking. They are not trying to control themselves from eating everything in sight.
It's not the food because they have the same access to food as you do.
So what's the difference between you and the normal eaters in your life?
It's not they are eating differently or have found the perfect diet, rather they are thinking differently about food.
They have a totally different mindset and context for food. They are not stuck in the "diet mentality"
It's our mindset and thought provcess that gets us so tripped up.
So how are you thinking that leads to disordered behaviors with food?